Understand Your Child Starter Kit: How To Know What Your Kid Needs From You
Your kid has a love language too. They don't know how to tell you what it is.
In this kit, I'll show you how to use your child's birthday to figure out what they need most, what sets them off, and what actually works (no quiz, no sitting them down for a talk).
Know your partner's love language and loving them gets easy.
You stop guessing.
Your kid works the same way.
Except this is slightly different from the 5 love languages. It's what they need from you to feel safe and okay, and they've never had a way to tell you what it is.
This was never about you not trying hard enough. Nobody ever showed you how to work out what your own kid needs from you.
Their birthday tells you what's going on in their head.
This chart here is a child who looks passive and reserved. In their head they are doubting themselves constantly, and they are sharper than anyone gives them credit for.
Here's how it works:
So simple, right? I did all the heavy lifting to make each number easy to remember and easy to spot in your own kid. All you have to do is watch the videos for yours.
I know. A birthday sounds like astrology.
It isn't. This is built on psychological models such as Maslow's Pyramid, Virginia Satir's Iceberg theory, as well as large amounts of statistical data.
I was skeptical at first but this blew me away. Suddenly, my daughter's behavior made so much more sense and I knew how to support her the way she actually needs. It completely shifted how I approach my family.
- Michael R
supply chain manager, father of one
Vancouver, BC, canada
Will this work for my kid?
Yes! If you know their birthday, you have everything you need.
It works the same on the one who won't talk to you and the one who argues with everything you say.
Fanny stopped talking her daughter into eating. She knew about her inner 5 and her daughter chose to eat on her own.
What's Included
- How to build your child's chart in about thirty seconds using nothing but their birthday (no quiz, no test, and no, you don't need to be good at math).
- How to look at that chart and know what's going on in your kid's head(this is the one every other video in the kit stands on).
- A video for every number, 1 through 9 covering what each one needs from you, what sets them off, and what actually helps.
- Why nothing you've tried has worked, and why the advice that works on everyone else's kid doesn't work on yours (it was never bad advice. It was never you either).
- Why your child has to feel understood before anything you say starts landing (think of someone you don't like. do you take their advice?).
- Me taking one child's birthday and telling you who they are, start to finish (this is the part where most parents go "wait, how did he know that").
- The number one mistake almost every parent makes about their own kid (get this one wrong and everything else you work out about them will be wrong too).
- Why the same thing works on one of your kids and backfires on the other (same house, same rules, same parent, two completely different kids).
- The boy who wouldn't come out of his room. Video games all day, door shut, nothing anyone said getting through. You see the whole thing, from his birthday to what was actually going on.
- [Bonus] The Hard-Moment Checklist: two minutes in the kitchen after it all blew up, and you go from "what just happened" to knowing what they needed.
Price: $27 USD
I was amazed by how accurate it was for me and my family. Now I see people through a new lens, and it’s helped me connect in a way I hadn’t before.
- Jessica B
benefits Consultant, mother of two
Calgary, alberta, canada
Free Bonus
The Hard-Moment Checklist
Next meltdown, argument, or wall?
Grab this checklist. In two minutes, you’ll move from, “What just happened?” to, “Now I actually know what they need.”
For the first time, let that guilt go.
I've already tried everything. Why would this be any different?
I understand you have but most parenting tips out there shows you how to respond to the average kid. Not one of those was tailored specifically to your own child.
Trying to parent every kid the same is like handing out identical shoes and being shocked when they don’t fit.
Who Am I To Teach This?
Hi, I'm Ian.
I grew up surrounded by people who loved me. Still, I felt invisible, like no one really got me…and at my lowest, I didn't want to go on.
The problem was never a lack of love. It was a lack of being understood—being seen as the person I was, not the kid my parents assumed I should be.
That's why I built this kit. To make sure no kid in a good home feels like a stranger, and no parent wonders, "Why can't I understand my own child?"
Want a peek inside first?
Watch this quick video for a real look at what’s waiting for you in the kit!
FAQ
Yes, and here's why. This doesn't treat your child like the average kid every piece of advice is written for. You learn to read your own child specifically, so what you walk away with actually fits the kid in your house.
It can give you the generic tips for “kids that age.” Only you know your kid and your own unique situation. This connects your dots, not someone else’s averages.
Nope. A quiz hands you a label. This teaches you to make sense of your real child—their signals, quirks, and what quietly matters most to them.
You don't need a week of free time. The kit's built so even one lesson can make something click.
If you've read this far, something here already sounds like your home. That feeling rarely shows up by accident, and it doesn't fade on its own. This is the easiest, lowest-pressure place to start finding out.
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